The man as the head (Part 2).
March 28, 2012 Leave a comment
(All bible texts are from the KJV unless otherwise stated)
In our last discussion, we considered the family as a team made up of a husband and a wife with or without kids. We moved on to define what it meant to say that the man was the head of the family, spelling out roles which included the man as the spiritual head of the family and also the fact that the man was the source of identity for the family. We then concluded with the fact that the primary tool a man had in giving the desired identity to his wife was his words and the fact that it was not right for a man to utter corrupt words especially in reference to his wife. (For more information please read; The man as the head Part 1).Today, we will conclude our discussion by considering other roles of a man as the head of the family.
As we said earlier, it is a duty of a man to give identity to his family. In line with this, the first responsibility of a man to his children is to give them an identity. Society in most cases respects this by giving the man the opportunity to name the child. However, beyond this, the Christian father gives an identity to a child by training and disciplining and guiding the children (Pr 1:8, 4:1-2, 4:11, 3:12, 1Th 2:11, Eph 6:4). These activities are undertaken to give the child the right mindset that distinguishes him or her and gives him or her excellence (Pr. 1:9).
In training the child, the father must be able to guide the child into adopting attitudes that identifies him with the Christian body and differentiates him from other kids that are not instructed in the Lord. The husband and wife must synergistically work together; putting in place spiritual, psychological, emotional and physical strategies to train the child in the way he should go so that when he grows up he will not depart from it (Pr 22:6). The parents must take keen interest in monitoring the content of the media the children are exposed to and must regulate it if possible. This might be unpleasant to the child in some cases, however, for the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant; later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it (Heb 12:11, RSV).
Among all things that should be taught a child, obedience and honour to parents (Eph 6:2-3) as well as a deep personal relationship with God (Psalm 78:5-7) are paramount. The child must also be guided to choose and aquire the necessary skills needed for life on earth. Love, patience and trust in the care and transformational powers of God are cardinal virtues that parents must live by to raise God fearing and loving children. The topic of training children will be discussed into details later in a later article (to be automatically updated enter email address and click “follow” on the right hand side of the site).
For a man to be successful as a wonderful husband and great dad; sharing, nurturing and attracting love should be the foundation of every word and action undertaken by the man in the family in relation to his wife or children (Eph. 5:23, Pr 3:12). Additionally, the man must honour his wife (1Pe 3:7, 1Co 7:4). The man must show visible adoration in reasonable forms before the kids, friends, coworkers and strangers as well as conduct himself with dignity towards his children (Eph 6:4). More importantly, the man must win the love of both his wife and children. It is unwise for a man to accumulate the love of strangers and outsiders but spurn the love of those who are close and matter most. For the sake of love and the integrity and sanctity of manhood in Christ Jesus, a man must not destroy his house by adultery usually called affairs. For whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; He who does so destroys his own soul (Pr 6:32).
In conclusion, for a man to be successful as the head of the family, he must first develop a deep relationship with God on behalf of himself and the family, must build an outstanding identity for his family and adopt love as the foundation of all interactions with his family.
Our next discussion will be on the wife as the heart of the family. All the best of the day, and please to remember to leave your comments.