You Will Not Understand the World and the World Will Not Understand You I

 

There is one thing I have come to realize about the journey towards an extraordinary life; you will not understand the world and the world will not understand you.

Longsuffering (forbearance, Galatians 5:22, KJV) is one fruit of the spirit you may have to bear all the days of your life if you want to be able to live in this world. A Spirit-filled and a Spirit-led life will have to be lived in a “heathen” world; a world where Christians can be carnal and the Pastor who counsels you in a particular way in a particular situation is not able to live up to his own counsel when he is faced with a similar situation. A world where people you love dearly, hurt you the most. How do we deal with these?

Know from whom you have learnt these things; knowing the actual source of what you know and live by is important in knowing what decisions to take when you realize that fellow Christians or even Pastors are not able to live up to their own counsel. You may feel deceived, cheated or even hurt. Jesus shared a nugget of wisdom on this topic- Mattew 23:1-3; Then Jesus spoke to the crowds and to His disciples: 2.The scribes and Pharisees sit in Moses’ seat. 3. So practice and observe everything they tell you. But do not do what they do, for they do not practice what they preach. It is best to accept Christ as our standard for life and not men, neither a fellow Christian nor Pastor. Do not be surprised when you are hurt by people in the church, they should have been different, but the hard truth is- they are not altogether different. We are all striving to meet the standard, that is, the Word.

Helpful resource: When You’re Hurt by the Church

Surviving in the Mist of Failure II

In our article “Surviving in the Mist of Failure I” we discussed the important concept of dealing with the shadows of your failure by adopting a victor mentality rather than a victim mentality. Adopting the victor mentality is important as it helps us to keep our mind focused on the right things so as to move our lives beyond our point failure.

One other important concept in the matter of failure is the temptation to give up our God-given principles that seemed to have led or contributed to our failure. I will like us to discuss this concept under the subtopic- Don’t Get Beaten Down into Giving Up.

Human pressure (pressure from friends, colleagues, parents and spiritual leaders) may be one of the most effective weapons that fights our will to hold on to God-given principles in the face of failure. This pressure becomes even more fatal when it comes from people we have trusted or still trust. But how do we deal with such pressures especially now that we may have “failed” while applying some of our strongly held principles.

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Let me share with you three ideas I learnt in the mist of failure;

1: Know from whom you have learnt these things (2 Timothy 3:14): what is the source of your principles, if they are from God and living by them grants you inner peace, keep them. If they are self-made, re-examine them in the face of God’s word; never say never until God says never.

2: Do not take the advice of those who demonstrate little or no understanding of the truths of your situation, unless you have a clear inner witness or direction from God to do so.

3: Do not take the advice of those who base their confidence or argument in fleshly knowledge or convictions (blind physical evidence) or unguarded emotions (anger or excitement). This idea is especially critical when the matter has a spiritual component. Spiritual matters are spiritually discerned (1 Corinthians 2: 13-14). These lessons, I have learnt, also apply to people you trust, you have to discern the times when their advice is not in line with God’s ways.